I was raised in a tiny log cabin in the middle of nowhere Quebec, and when I was seven, my parents divorced. My father struggled with mental illness and was unable to be a part of my life. My mother travelled to work as an airline stewardess to support us. Joy was hard to come by.
I was attracted to environments, people, and roles that ensured I stayed in that state. I met mentors and role models (whom I desperately needed as a fatherless child) who were reactive men who also pushed themselves daily to ensure they were numb and exhausted. So, I lived by what I saw. My normal was working 16 hours a day, 6 days a week, pushing my body to the limits, and making sure I avoided anything uncomfortable on days off.
As an entrepreneur for over a decade, I was responsible for over 140 employees, was consumed by spreadsheets, managed complicated partnerships, was chained to email, and dealt with tricky contract negotiations. I thought if I got "X" I would be happy.
I started and sold multiple successful businesses, travelled the world, and grew a wonderful family, but I still felt empty at the end of the day. I had a wildly successful career, was a local celebrity, and was well-regarded. On the outside looking in, it was easy to glorify.
During that time I attended an talk about resilience and success. I approached the organizer to speak at the next event. Over the course of a month I wrote my speech, and was rehearsing it for the first time out loud in my car between meetings. As I read the cue cards I began to vividly recall early childhood memories and I couldn’t make it past the first event in my life without minimizing or justifying that it was normal. In that moment I could feel the confusion I experienced as young child. The fear, the loneliness, the overwhelm, all of the pain that I never acknowledged before came out in one punch.
My adult life reflected what I had known to be normal since childhood. Something needed to change. None of it was sustainable. I was faced with a choice to continue to endure difficulty and loneliness or start to make sense of my inner conflicts.
I dove in, applying that pusher attitude to bettering myself. I faced the part of me that was making the lives of others difficult. I appreciated the part of me that needed to work myself into the ground to feel safe. I showed compassion to the part of me that couldn't acknowledge, the pain I was holding on to. I nourished the part of me that didn't know how to be joyful.
As I unravelled the chaos of my younger years, I found my personal board of directors, who rooted for me and held me accountable without shame or judgment. I knew there was no chance I was alone in carrying hidden burdens while maintaining the facade that everything was OK. So, I sold my other businesses and put my efforts into helping others lead themselves. I became a certified Internal Family Systems (IFS) practitioner, providing coaching to those suffering the same way I once did.
All humans are an intricate mosaic of multiple parts. Imagine a living room where all different versions of yourself live, each representing a different desire, need, and role. It is natural to allow whatever part is most present at any given time to influence your daily decisions.
I work with you to help you access a deeper understanding of yourself by developing a relationship with every version of yourself. Using IFS, transformative breathwork, and meditative practices, I help you find your place of confidence within the collaboration of all the parts of us that are just trying to help us cope. You will get the tools to make decisions from a place of clarity versus reacting from a place of survival.
I was raised in a tiny log cabin in the middle of nowhere Quebec, and when I was 7, my parents divorced. My father struggled with mental illness and was unable to be a part of my life. My mother travelled to work as an airline stewardess to support us. Joy was hard to come by.
I was attracted to environments, people, and roles that ensured I stayed in that state. I met mentors and role models (whom I desperately needed from a young man's perspective) who were reactive men who pushed themselves daily to ensure they were numb and exhausted. So, I lived by what I saw. I usually worked 16 hours a day, 6 days a week, pushing my body to the limits and avoiding anything uncomfortable on days off.
As an entrepreneur for over a decade, I was responsible for over 140 employees, was consumed by spreadsheets, managed complicated partnerships, was chained to email, and dealt with tricky contract negotiations. I thought if I got "X", I would be happy.
I started and sold multiple successful businesses, travelled the world, and grew a wonderful family, but I still felt empty at the end of the day. I had a wildly successful career, was a local celebrity, and was well-regarded. On the outside looking in, it was easy to glorify.
During that time, I attended a talk about resilience and success. I approached the organizer to speak at the next event. Over a month, I wrote my speech and rehearsed it for the first time out loud in my car between meetings. As I read the cue cards, I began to vividly recall early childhood memories, and I couldn’t make it past the first event in my life without minimizing or justifying that it was normal. In that moment, I could feel the confusion I experienced as a young child. The fear, the loneliness, the overwhelm, all of the pain that I never acknowledged before came out in one punch.
My adult life reflected what I had known to be normal since childhood. Something needed to change. None of it was sustainable. I was faced with a choice to continue to endure difficulty and loneliness or start to make sense of my inner conflicts.
I dove in, applying that pusher attitude to bettering myself. I faced the part of me that was making the lives of others difficult. I appreciated the part of me that needed to work myself into the ground to feel safe. I showed compassion to the part of me that couldn't acknowledge the anger I was holding on to. I nourished the part of me that didn't know how to be joyful.
As I unravelled the chaos of my younger years, I found my personal board of directors, who rooted for me and held me accountable without shame or judgment. I knew there was no chance I was alone in carrying hidden burdens while maintaining the facade that everything was OK. So, I sold my other businesses and put my efforts into helping others lead themselves. I became a certified Internal Family Systems (IFS) practitioner, providing coaching to those suffering the same way I once did.
All humans are an intricate mosaic of multiple parts. Imagine a living room where all different versions of yourself live, each representing a different desire, need, and role. It is natural to allow whatever part is most present at any given time to influence your daily decisions.
I work with you to help you access a deeper understanding of yourself by developing a relationship with every version of yourself. Using IFS, transformative breathwork, and meditative practices, I help you find your place of confidence within the collaboration of all the parts of us that are just trying to help us cope. You will get the tools to make decisions from a place of clarity versus reacting from a place of survival.
I love living in the Pacific Northwest with my wife, two boys, and our bearded dragon named Spike.
I was a celebrity chef who owned restaurants, businesses, and product lines, and I deeply understand the feeling of isolation from being in a leadership role.
You can find me playing in the mountains when I am not working or with my family.
I believe breathing connects us to ourselves on a fundamental level. Breathing is the first thing we do when we come into this life, and we neglect its powers in the chaos of everyday living.
I am lit up by guiding others to their fullest potential. I teach courses, lead anger management groups, and host in-person retreats.
I love living in the Pacific Northwest with my wife, two boys, and our bearded dragon named Spike.
I was a celebrity chef who owned restaurants, businesses, and product lines, and I deeply understand the feeling of isolation from being in a leadership role.
You can find me playing in the mountains when I am not working or with my family.
I believe breathing connects us to ourselves on a fundamental level. Breathing is the first thing we do when we come into this life, and we neglect its powers in the chaos of everyday living.
I am lit up by guiding others to their fullest potential. I teach courses, lead anger management groups, and host in-person retreats.
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